I feel like I’m in grade school trying to impress people so they’ll hang out with me.
There’s been two instances where I’m all like “WTF, yo!?”… and feel crappy.
ONE:
A friend’s birthday was on Monday. And my friends went out to lunch with her. I saw the birthday girl on Friday, and asked her how her birthday was.
“We went out to lunch. Where were you?”
I wasn’t invited. In fact this is the first I hear about it.
“Oh, they said they told you”
Nope.
I figured, whatever, some one must not like me. And really I don’t care. Okay, maybe a little, but not as much as maybe I should.
But, still … why tell someone that you invited another person when you didn’t? I don’t get that. What does anyone get out of that? Because the uninvited will find out, and the person who wanted the uninvited to be invited will find out too… so what’s the point, inviter?
TWO:
With one of my friends, it just feels like a constant struggle to keep this friendship alive. It just seems sometimes one of us tried alot harder than the other to try and hang out. It’s always “let’s hang out on your next day off!” and on my day off “oh, I thought you were going to go out with your boyfriend”.
I don’t have to spend every waking moment that I’m not studying or working with him. We have the rest of our lives for that… but I feel like in a way, she hates me for being in a relationship. And it’s not like I’m just pulling this sentiment out of my ass…
In October, we had gone out to lunch, and I was sporting a new piece of jewelry I had gotten for Sweetest’s Day. And she said “I’m really over everyone being in relationships”… and kind of marveled at the fact that a couple of weeks later a friend of ours got dumped.
So now, there’s an event we’re both invited to go to. She already made plans to go. And although I won’t be able to go this year, like we always do, she still hasn’t asked if I’m going/want to go with her.
Sometimes, I hate my friends.
07 February, 2011
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I gave up on trying to maintain relationships that I don't feel I have the time to care about. Family included. That sounds a little bitchy but that's how I feel. If they're not going to work at it, why should I? It's not worth pretending that it's still working if it's not.
Sometimes friends are just necessary hassle. Ayy....
If I had a party you would be the first. Person I would invite :)
Some friends are just not worth keeping. I have kearned that sometimes it is better to just let go, I spend most of my time alone but it might be worth it,
I'm the person who loves when people don't invite me places. Then I don't have to come up with some lame excuse since I probably don't want to be there anyways.
I feel like we all go through this as we get older, we find out who our real friends are and who are the users. Lying about inviting you somewhere and not inviting you is totally shitty.
That's why I only have a few really good couple friend; or friends with kids [but that's only because I have one].
People don't understand how a good relationship [or, in my case, parenthood] works unless you're in it.
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I know exactly what you mean! I'm getting married in a month, and it's unbelievable how you find out who your true friends really are.
I really like your blog--the tone, your writing style etc etc etc.
I can totally relate to this post-- I hate when I'm putting in more work in a friendship than the other person..it's like, if you don't want to be friends just say something and quit the grade school crap!
Keep writing!
-RRR
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