30DOT: Day 18

(18) Your Views on gay marriage.

I am very Pro-Gay Marriage. 

She’s the reason why: 

Her name is Lupe.

I found out my aunt was a lesbian when I was around nine. My family from Phoenix was visiting that summer. I remember my brother Frank, my cousin Gladys and I were watching a movie in my aunts’ room. It was sort of accidental. My aunt has rainbow colored rings hanging from her light fixture. Frank and Gladys made a joke that I don’t remember, but I remember not getting it because they both told me “I’ll tell you when you’re older”… FYI - They never did. 

I forgot what movie we were watching. But, there was some sort of chase and the chasers ran into a Pride Parade. At that moment, Gladys and Frank looked at each other and said “Tia is gay!”.  I had no idea what they were talking about. 

I started piecing the picture slowly. Rainbows. She shares a bed with a girl. Oh! She’s gay and not the happy gay. My life didn’t change at all. I still loved her as much as when I thought that her and her girlfriend were just bff’s. It was never odd to me. 

But nothing that’s out of the normal ever felt weird to me. My aunt likes girls. Cool. Why doesn’t everyone else think so? That’s what I couldn’t wrap my head around. 

For the longest time, I was boycotting marriage. Why should I be able to get married when there a many gay couples that want to be able to get married? I think I stopped my boycott when in a Political Science class a girl said, “I don’t think gays should get married because then they’ll adopt kids and screw them up in the head”. Right, because straight couples don’t do that to kids. Right. I almost cried when she said that. My aunt practically raised us. And this girl was basically saying I’m messed up in the head. Which, okay, maybe I am, but it’s not from contact with my aunt, but more from my hetero-family. She wasn’t having it.

To say I’m pro-gay marriage just for my aunt is a lie. But also for my friends who are gay. And the countless of gay couples that also want to get married. Now that I’m in a relationship that’s leading into marriage I think I wish my aunt/my friend Jesse/my friend Naaman/insert name here could be planning their future wedding like this. It makes me want to not get married. But as my aunt has told me “It’s not going to solve anything”. Maybe she’s right. 

The State of Illinois has passed a civil union bill this month. Though it’s not marriage, I’ll take this over nothing. 

Thirty Days of Truth (1) Something you hate about yourself. (2)Something you love about yourself. (3) Something you have to forgive yourself for. (4) Something you have to forgive someone for. (5) Something you hope to do in your life. (6) Something you hope you never have to do. (7) Someone who has made your life worth living for. (8) Someone who made your life hell, or treated you like shit. (9) Someone you didn’t want to let go, but just drifted. (10) Someone you need to let go, or wish you didn’t know. (11) Something people seem to compliment you the most on. (12) Something you never get compliments on. (13) A band or artist that has gotten you through some tough ass days. (write a letter.) (14) A hero that has let you down. (letter) (15) Something or someone you couldn’t live without, because you’ve tried living without it. (16) Someone or something you definitely could live without. (17) A book you’ve read that changed your views on something. (18) Your views on gay marriage. (19) What do you think of religion? Or what do you think of politics? (20)views on drugs and alcohol. (21) Your best friend is in a car accident and you two got into a fight an hour before. What do you do? (22) Something you wish you hadn’t done in your life. (23) Something you wish you had done in your life. (24) Make a playlist to someone, and explain why you chose all the songs. (Just post the titles and artists and letter) (25) The reason you believe you’re still alive today. (26) Have you ever thought about giving up on life? If so, when and why? (27) What’s the best thing going for you right now? (28) What if you were pregnant or got someone pregnant, what would you do? (29) Something you hope to change about yourself. And why. (30) A letter to yourself, tell yourself EVERYTHING you love about yourself.